Creating Drop Down Options for products

I need to build a website for golf shop that custom builds clubs and I need to have options for the customer to custom fit their clubs. Once a customer chooses the right club head, then they have to choose the brand of shaft they want, then the stiffness of that shaft, the grip they want, the color of that grip, a couple different angle options, and finally how many clubs they want.

And I need the site to take all these factors and calculate a new total price based on every specification.

I assume I do this at least partially via “Listing Options –> Attributes”. Is there a way to manage those attributes in bulk since most of our product choices will have the same options (but not all of them)?

Also, how do we make each attribute affect price since each add-on option we have will have multiple upgrades at higher costs?

Lastly, Each of our store’s options are, for the most part, another product. Is there a way to pull in additional products to an order so that when displaying a Driver Head there would be a drop down for all available driver shafts and their prices that then gets added to the total price.

Thank you all in advance for your help. Hopefully that made some sense. If it didn’t, please ask questions and I will try to explain better.

Jay